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Give The Benefit of a Doubt
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As you know, life is full of ups and downs. Throughout the journey you will experience instances when you’re tempted to assume the worst.
Someone might have cut you off in traffic. Someone may have even said the wrong thing to you and left you with an unsettling feeling. Or maybe you didn’t get that big break that you were expecting.
In these instances, you may find that you’re easily frustrated and tempted to get upset. But sometimes it wouldn’t hurt to give someone else the benefit of a doubt.
You see, giving someone the benefit of a doubt is much like forgiveness in that when you do so, you’re not doing it for the other person, you’re doing it for yourself. In other words if someone wrongs you, you’re giving them an advantage and as a result, you release the tension out of your mind.
I’m not saying that you should be naive and let people walk all over you. No there’s a thin line between the two. In fact, a wise man once said you must forgive but never forget. In other words, if someone offends you, give them the benefit of a doubt but take good notes and learn the signs so that you’re not mistreated again.
I want to share a story about a man at a tennis match. Just a few rows down from where he was sitting, he saw a strikingly beautiful women. So after the tennis match was over, he felt strongly urged to go up and spark conversation with her. As he walked up to her, she had her back turned and was gathering her things together. So he finally Read More→
Not All “What If” Thinking Is Bad Thinking
Posted by: | CommentsDoctors say that not all bacteria is bad for you. Sure you have the kind of bacteria that causes inflammation in your body. The kind of bacteria that causes you to get sick – the kind that causes diseases.
But studies show that some bacteria is actually good for you. Some bacteria can actually strengthen your immune system. This bacteria will in turn cause you to fight off sickness and disease. My friend, I like to liken this sort of mentality to the way we think.
You see, experts say that you should eliminate all “what if” thinking completely. You know those thoughts of worry, fear, doubt, insecurity… “Well, what if I can’t overcome this addiction?” “What if I can’t be made whole?” “What if the doctor’s report comes back negative?” “What if I try out for the team and I don’t make it?“
For the most part you do want to avoid this kind of thinking. An overflow of these thoughts can indeed cause you to flow into a downward spiral.
However, we all have those times when we can’t help but think “what if” thoughts. Sometimes they’re not all bad. In fact, I believe some “what if” thoughts can cause you to break out of ruts.
I’m reminded of a time when I was younger and I touched a hot stove. Before I ever touched the hot stove, I always thought – “What happens if I touch the hot stove… how hot can it be?” Well, one day I worked up the nerve to touch the stove and I must say it was the hottest touch I ever experienced. Thankfully, my instincts caused an immediate jerk reaction. It was at that time I learned what does happen when I touch a hot stove and vowed to never do it again.
Well, this is what should happen when we find ourselves thinking “what if” thoughts. We should allow them to instill just enough fear into us that no matter what happens in life, we know that God has our best interests at heart and therefore we should not worry.
You see, it’s the “what if” thoughts that give us character. It’s the “what if” thoughts that spark our curiosity and gives us the experience to know what’s good for us and what’s not good for us.
“Well what if I don’t win the race?” Well, what if you don’t win the race? Will you give up? Will you become saturated in defeat or will you press on until you reach victory?
“What if I don’t do well on the test?” Well, what if you don’t do well? Will Read More→
Focus On The Good
Posted by: | CommentsWhat’s your attitude towards life? Are you going around expecting something good out of life, or do you go around with a critical defeatist mind-set?
Remember what you focus most of your time and attention on is what you will get more out of in life. Focus on that which you’re grateful for rather than the things you don’t have.
Sometimes it’s very easy to fall into that greedy mind-set of wanting more, more, more. But I dare you to make a decision to focus on what what God has already placed in your possession. It’s those small things that make a huge difference.
Many times we get into that complex mind-set and we forget about the things that are dear to us. Well, I guess it’s true what they say, you never know how much you appreciate something until it’s gone.
Appreciate the intangible.
Give your attention to the intangible. Love, for instance, is one of the greatest gifts from God that we so easily overlook throughout our daily hustle. Love is something that can’t be bought with money. The best form is Read More→
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