5 Questions to Ask Yourself When Accepting a Yes
5 Questions to Ask Yourself When Accepting a Yes
By“Don’t settle for a yes, rise above to find a yes.” – Jarrod Clark
We have a natural ability to want to go where we’re accepted. When were told no so many times, we go to settle for any yes that we get.
Sometimes the yes that you accept isn’t always the yes that God has for you. I always say that when one door closes another opens. Yes, but every door that’s open unto you isn’t necessarily the door that’s best for you. It’s the sad truth.
How do you know when a door is meant for you?
Sometimes it can be a rather difficult task to be able to discern what pathways to take. Here’s a list of 5 questions that will help you come to that conclusion:
1) Does the opportunity benefit you? Some opportunities are like poison in disguise. They look like the perfect opportunity from an entering standpoint but ultimately there’s nothing in it for you. In fact some opportunities have the ability to kill your dreams and goals.
2) Is it in line with God’s will for your life? Some pathways lead to the pot at the end of the rainbow but the receiver ends up sacrificing his integrity, morals, values and neglects God’s will for his life.
3) Are the people involved supportive? I’m a strong believer that the people you surround yourself around have a huge benefit on where you’re headed in life. If you allow the wrong people to get into your mind and deter your focus, then that can be detrimental toward your ultimate success.
4) Does the opportunity motivate you? You may blindly stumble into a doorway that is bland. The mission for the opportunity may have no drive, zeal, or aspiration. If you let it, this can have a major influence on you and cause you to fall stagnant and comfortable with where you are. Don’t settle for mediocrity, continue to rise to the next level.
5) Is it a catalyst to propel you forward? You’re either in 1 of 3 states of movement in terms of accomplishing your dreams. You’re either moving forward, stuck in a rut (due to obstacles), or moving backwards. Does the yes in your life provide opportunities for other beneficial yeses in the future? This is something to consider.
You may say, “okay here’s the thing, in an ideal world I can consider these options but due to demand, I need to accept whatever yes I can get.” That is a natural, and considerable rebuttal and I totally agree. When getting no after no after no, accepting the next yes is an obligation.
The important thing to remember is that every yes is not the be all-end all. If it’s a mediocre opportunity, don’t allow it to cause you to become stagnant. Remember in the end it’s up to you to motivate yourself. Always keep your vision in mind as you charge forth on your journey of life.
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Thanks Jarrod. We are responsible to listen to our ‘inner voice’ or ‘inner integrity’ all the time aren’t we? This is the thread I was feeling all the way through your post. Eg a ‘yes’ may be valid — but only for a certain period of time. Or maybe –it will be valid for a lifetime. Only our inner wisdom will know. Nice to touch hands with you.
@Christopher – Welcome!! You are right, we are responsible for listening to our inner voice!! Thanks for stopping by and contributing.
Very thought provoking Jarrod and I can think of so many times where this show up in my life. Yes appears under disguise (like you say) in ways that I think are often a test of how much we are actually listening to God over our own internal selfish desires. It seems that is what disguises it most and tasks a consistent desire to actually listen with our heart, instead of our minds and realize somethings what we are called to do are actually appearing in many many smaller ways. Once I started to listen to these things in my life, I was never able to understand bigger topics or callings. I know this will continue to increase now and lead me further little by little.
Anyway, I’ve enjoyed reading through some of your articles, I’m glad to be connected as friends now online! Thanks…
hi jarrod,
how are you?
thanks for sharing.
the end result may be yes in the short run but it’s actually a no in the long run hiding under the guise of manipulation.
this post reminds me of a proverb not all that appears to glitter is gold.
i think there must be a balance and a call to order when jumping at an opportunity because of the fear of losing it.
this is what’s outlined in your post above.
take care and have a lovely weekend
Well said… life is abundant with paths for us to take, but discovering the best one isn’t always as simple as it seems. A lot of people sacrifice things they truly care about to hop on board a path just because it’s there; yet just because something’s THERE doesn’t mean we have to accept it. I’d rather spend a lifetime working towards what really matters than blindly accept what’s being given to me if it’s not something I truly desire.
Hi Jarrod,
This is a great post on choices and being flexible.
Ensuring that each ‘yes’ brings you to your desired outcome and resonates with your heart, will lead you to your vision. I enjoyed that you mention the importance of surrounding yourself with supportive and encouraging people. I’ve had a naysayer or two that led me to second guess my intuition. Well, as Maya Angelou once said, ‘when you know better, you do better.’
Have an amazing weekend!
Thank you Mike for contributing! I’m glad to have connected with you as well!! Have a great weekend!!
Hello Ayo! I am doing great, I hope all is well with you my friend! I love your proverb.
The interesting is that it works the other way around, sometime the ‘Yes’ can appear like the perfect opportunity and it would seem like a crazy decision not to accept it, but that small voice inside of you says this is not it. Sometimes the hardest thing is not accepting what appears to be the perfect opportunity! Thanks for sharing, have a great weekend!!
Exactly my point Travis, we don’t have to accept every opportunity that comes our way. Sometimes we may be missing out on a bigger, greater opportunity that’s even further down the road. Thanks for contributing!!
Absolutely Kim, it’s imperative that we surround ourselves around like minded people who will encourage us to excel and do greater things. Naysayer don’t fit the part. I love the Maya Angelou quote you used. She is so wise!! Have a great weekend
Excellent post. I have found in my own life that whenever I listen to that inner voice, 9 times out of 10 it will lead to success. Listening to our inner voice comes a lot easier when we are in alignment with what God has planned for us, therefore a steady flow begins to emerge from that choice and we progress in a rather steady and easy flow with life and success.
Welcome Baker! Yes… that is so true. You make a great point. Thanks for contributing!!
Sometimes its very hard to do it .Like currently i have to leave my friend’s now.